Why Friendship Is A Lost Treasure

September 3rd, 2019

By Alisa Star

A true friend is the rarest thing to come by in today’s world. Love gets all the headlines, but friendship is where all the action is; after all, a friendship develop before love comes. Friends can challenge us, confuse us, and sometimes we might wonder why we bother. But friendship is as important to our well being like the air we breathe, the food we eat, or the shelter we live in. What’s more friendship helps us grow, learn, and make life long relationships. The people we bring into our lives as friends will help us learn how to forgive, laugh, listen, and love. Friends help push us out of our comfort zones, help motivate us while still providing a safe emotional space for us to be completely ourselves.

Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. The great Muhammad Ali once said “Friendship is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning, then you really haven’t learned anything.”

A true friend will completely have your back, through the good and the bad. They will always stand up for you if you’re not there to defend yourself. They will always be there for you, no matter what time of day or night. They will listen to all your worries with an open mind, and give you good advice. Most of us only have a few good friends at a time. Friends are becoming extinct, really… You may only have 2-3 in your whole lifetime that will remain with you, and if you have that you are blessed. Cherish friendship close to your heart and treasure it like its gold.

Most of us wonder what the real meaning of the saying “A Friend In Need Is A Friend Indeed” The trust between best friends is such that if one friend is in trouble, the other will not think twice to help. If the bond between two friends is strong, two friends can endure even long distances, which so many relationships can’t even do that. It would not affect their relationship. True friendship does not fade away. In fact it grows stronger with time.

True friendship thrives on trust, inspiration, and comfort. A true friend you can tell your secrets to, and you know they’re kept a secret. A true friend inspires you to excel, and helps you go above and beyond your own expectations, admires your success and is not jealous of it.

What keeps the fabric of friendship solid and so colorful is a touch is spirituality. Friendship cannot become permanent unless it becomes a spiritual experience. It does not have to be defended or explained. It is only with the heart that we can understand what it means to be a friend or to have a friend.

It was God who said in the beginning, that it was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18); then at the fullness of time God sent his own son into the word, not only to be a friend, but to make and have friends (John 15:13).

Friendships are great investments. Friends can be influential concerning our jobs/ or career as they become a part of the network that we use to find our way through life. Friends can introduce us to new friends and expand our life experiences. It can enhance the quality in our lives, and help us produce better in a working environment. And a friend usually won’t let a mutual acquaintance steer you wrong, and will always try and lead you in the right direction. After all a true friend only wants the best for you.

Life is like a party, you invite a lot of people, some leave early and some leave late, some laugh with you, some laugh at you. But at the end, when all the fun is over, it’s usually your friends who stay or show up the next morning to help you clean up the mess. This is what a friend does. So support your friends, listen to their ideas, go to their events, share their posts, celebrate their victories, and remind them of their importance after their failures. A little support can go a long way in your friend’s life.

Friends are like your backbone they are always there when you need support, so be there for each other, remember friendship is a two way street. It takes two people to make a friendship.

I love and cherish my friends; there have been times I didn’t have the words that could make a bad thing go away, but I had the arms to embrace them and comfort them, and to cry with them. Sometime between friends there doesn’t need to be words, just be present. I thank God for the friends in my life. I don’t know what I would do without them, and I’m grateful that my children are also my best friends. I feel blessed to have such wonderful people in my circle to be a part of my life, and to go through my years developing such great, fun memories with.

There are some people in your life that make you laugh a little louder, smile a little longer and just live a little bit better…….A Friend.

Here’s To Living The Best You!

Love Languages

August 1st, 2019

Lillie Heintz. Photo by Christopher Horne

By Lilli Heintz

We all want people to feel satisfied in a relationship whether it’s a friendship, marriage, or dating. We have this need that has to be filled whether it is through action, words, touch, gifts, and even time. Some people don’t know what it is that needs to be filled.

In the environment I work in, the models around me are into zodiac signs and how we act the way we act because of the time and place we were born and how the planets aligned. Even though I do find that satisfying and believe it to some extent, I feel like learning how to satisfy someone’s needs and wants so that they feel comfortable around you, interests me more. I remember my Dad, Pastor Brad of Living Word Church, did a series about love languages. The whole church read the book so that we could apply it to our lives. If you don’t know your love language I definitely suggest reading the book called “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. There are also tests online that you can take to get a more accurate description of your own love language.

When I took the test, it told me that physical touch was number one and quality time was a very close second. That means what fulfills me and makes me happy is hugging you, holding hands, kissing, cuddling, putting my feet on you while sitting down. I show and want that type of love and affection. Then quality time comes into play. Where I just want to spend time with you, be at the same party, in the same room, just you and me or even a huge group of people. I just love physically being with them and or around them.
The other love languages are words of affirmation, which is where you need to be encouraged, supported, built up, to feel comfortable or wanted. The love language of gifts shows thoughtfulness and the action behind the gift is important. And finally, acts of service are when you do something for someone to make them happy or fulfill a need. It can include making a meal, cleaning; any act of service that would make the other person happy makes you happy.

Knowing your own love language is important but also knowing your friends or significant other’s love language is just as important. Some people might not have the same love languages as you. When I make new friends and I want to keep them around, I try to find out their love language. Sometimes I even have them take the test to make sure I am right. I want to satisfy their needs or want and know how to act in serious or fun situations. I don’t want to smother them or say the wrong thing because I don’t know what they are wanting. They might want a gift or an action. This also shows how Acts of Service is my third love language. Knowing others’ love language helps build a better foundation for your relationship to grow and be better from the start.

I am always trying to make sure the people around me are being taken care of the best way possible. I love knowing how I need to make a person happy or comfortable, it just makes me happy. Knowing this information can really better you as a person and better the relationships surrounding you.