Adaptability

January 1st, 2016

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By Michael W. Gos

Dryden, Texas

One of the most important traits man possesses is his adaptability.  It gives him the strength and power to deal with the ever-changing world.  This is not a trait unique to man, of course.  The entire process of evolution is predicated on species’ abilities to adapt to changes in the environment.  In times of drought, when survival for a primitive plant-eating species meant being able to reach tree leaves that weren’t yet eaten, it was the individuals with the longest legs and necks that ate well.  Those that couldn’t adapt weren’t competitive enough to survive.  Since most young animals tend to resemble their parents, the next generation had longer legs and necks.  Today, thousands of generations later, we have the giraffe.

But unlike evolution, which is a multi-generational proposition (just ask any rancher trying to develop a new strain of cattle), man’s adaptability works at the micro level.  That is, he is capable of evolving and changing many times over the course of a single lifetime.  My father remembered a time when rapid transit meant traveling on horseback.  Then came cars, planes and a Purdue man setting the first foot on the moon.  In each case, after just a brief adjustment time, he dealt with these new developments as if they had always been a part of life.  I’m not sure he ever gave much thought to the number of changes he’d negotiated in his lifetime.  His ability to adapt allowed him, like the tall giraffe, to survive the changing world.

I was driving from Del Rio to Marathon, my first stop on a two-week trip to the Big Bend area.  About mid-way on the drive I realized I was not only low on gas, but I needed a bathroom break—urgently.  I had already passed Comstock and Langtry and it was still a long way to Sanderson.  My only hope was Dryden.

Even if you’ve driven this stretch of Highway 90 dozens of times, you may not have noticed Dryden.  The “town” consists of a fragment of a convenience store and a couple of small abandoned buildings.  It was a going concern from around 1882 till the Depression, at one time having a population over 100.  Today it has a population of 13.  In fact, the entire population of Terrell County is only 30 and the 2010 census lists the county’s population density as zero persons per square mile.  While originally named after an engineer building the railroad that runs alongside the highway, today the name is even more appropriate.  It is the “Driest Den” I have ever seen—nothing but rolling sand and gravel piles.

I pulled up to what turned out to be merely a ghost of a store and asked if there was a gas station nearby.  The clerk, a not unattractive woman in her early 30s, referred me to Sanderson.  When I asked about a bathroom, I got the same response.  I was starting to feel a bit “unwelcome” because of the terse responses, so I figured I’d get a little more personal. I asked if she lived around there.  That did the trick.  She said she had been there all her life.  Her father was a goat rancher just north of town.  Today she and her husband still eek out a living by ranching the land her dad left her but they both need outside jobs to make that happen.  He works as a lineman for the electric company, she at the store.

I asked if she had ever thought about moving somewhere a little less “severe,” like maybe Sanderson.  She replied, “Oh, it’s not so bad here.  You get used to it.”

I would have liked to spend a little more time there talking to her as once she opened up, she seemed to be a rather pleasant woman, but my bladder was calling and it was still 20 miles to Sanderson.  I bought a couple of sticks of jerky, thanked her and said my good-byes.

I remember my first summer out of high school.  In Gary, Indiana, if you were going to college, you worked summers in the steel mills.  That’s where our fathers worked all their lives.  There were no negotiations.  That’s the way it was.

My first day there was far worse than any hell I could have imagined.  In the building I worked, the pickle line, they poured hot oil on very hot steel to prevent rust.  It was 120 degrees.  Our skin and clothes were constantly covered in the oil vapor that formed the clouds of air we breathed.  One thing you could say for the steel mills, they guaranteed you wouldn’t drop out of college.

I was down in a hole under the mill shoveling oil-covered slitter scrap into a barrel.  It was a nasty job.  When I had filled the barrel with the little pieces of steel, a two-hour job in itself, I was to call on one of the overhead cranes to drop its hook through a hole in the ceiling.  It was then my job to attach the hook to the barrel and get out of the way.  As the crane raised the barrel for the first time, it slowly rotated, shooting a stream of oil across my face as a huge rat ran out from behind the barrel, across my shoe.

I swore I’d never go back.  My parents had other ideas.  I not only went back the next day, I worked there for four summers and as time went on, it wasn’t so bad.  I guess I got used to it.

Later, after graduation, I worked as a district circulation manager for a newspaper.  At least four times a year we would have sales drives that included contests to see who could generate the most new customers in their district.  The winning district manager always received a nice trip somewhere and a fat expense account.  For some reason, I was never able to spend the entire allotted expense amount in spite of what I thought was lavish spending.  And every time when I returned, I was lectured about the importance of spending ALL the money allotted and told I needed to do better next time.

By the time I got to my fourth year there, the expense accounts for the trips never quite covered my spending—sometimes missing by hundreds of dollars.  By the time I realized what had happened, I had developed such bad habits that I “needed” that job just to stay somewhere close to the lifestyle I now demanded.

We can get used to anything over time, be it the steel mills, a lavish lifestyle or life in Dryden.  We can do that because we are flexible and learn to flourish in whatever situations we face.  That may be one of the strongest and most positive traits of mankind.  But as I learned at the newspaper, that adaptability can also be used as a weapon against you.  You can get used to anything with time.  And that’s how they get you.

The ability to adapt is absolutely critical to a successful and happy life.  It seems the people who have a strong ability to “roll with the punches” negotiate life in the most positive way.  But we must be ever vigilant in evaluating what we are adapting to.  It could just be a trap.

Generation Gaps

December 1st, 2015

The bank had become to historical society.

The bank had become to historical society.

By Michael W. Gos

Comfort, Texas

It all started over a few bottles of honey.

Many decades ago, an old man I know fell in love with Fain’s honey.  It wasn’t available in Baytown, where he lived, but it didn’t matter because he could always get it in Hill Country, and since he made several hunting trips there a year, he just packed in a supply every time he traveled.  It was a good system and it served him well for more than 40 years.

But as he grew older he found he no longer had the inclination, and eventually even the ability, for the many trips he took when he was younger.  His journeys there were fewer and further apart.  He still wanted to spend time at the beer lease with his sons and grandsons, if only just to sit around the fire and do the Wild Turkey thing.  And he still got his honey.

But then his 80s came and even those trips stopped.  It wasn’t long before his supply of Fain’s ran out.  It was then he thought of me.  He had heard I was headed to San Antonio for a conference and asked if I would be willing to make a run into Lowe’s Food Market in Comfort to get him ten or twelve bottles.  I told him I’d be happy to.

It had probably been ten years since my last trip to Comfort.  I remembered it as a quaint little village that had a wool exchange and an egg hatchery.  That was about it.  But it was big enough to have a weekly newspaper and some beautiful old buildings “downtown,” a couple of blocks off the highway.  One of those buildings housed Lowe’s Food Market, a Norman Rockwell image of a 1950s tiny town grocery store.

Ten years is not that long of a time and I have a pretty good memory, but when I drove down High Street where I thought I remembered Lowe’s being, I found I was wrong.  Thinking perhaps my memory had failed me, I drove down Main Street, then Broadway, the two streets in town that paralleled High Street.  Thinking my memory must really be failing, I even drove along 473 to look.  Still having no luck, I finally violated the sacred man code and stopped at a gas station to ask directions.

The attendant said, “It used to be back on High Street, but it burned down a couple of years ago.  Now there’s just a vacant lot there.”  He said he’d heard they were planning on rebuilding on Front Street, but as far as he knew, that hadn’t started yet.  Accepting that I had failed in my quest, I decided to move on.

While I think I do a good job of hiding it, the fact is I have a sentimental side.  I like to take out old memories now and then and look at them.  Since I had come this far, I figured I might as well take advantage of the opportunity.  I got back in the car and drove along High Street again to see if I could find the exact spot where the store used to sit.  As I looked more closely at the buildings in the old downtown section, I noticed that the library was pretty much as I remembered it; so were a couple of five and dime-type stores.  But almost everything else was different. The bank had become the historical society. There was a Beatles-themed bar, three small restaurants, a couple of gift shops and even an ice cream store.  None of these were at all familiar to me.

Disappointed, I decided to drive on toward Bandera where I hoped I’d be able to find the honey.  As I pulled on to Highway 27, I found myself obsessing over the changes I had encountered in Comfort.  It was no longer the town I remembered.  I suppose to someone seeing it for the first time, it would still be a sweet, quaint little Hill Country town.  But they didn’t know the Comfort that I knew—and it made me sad.

I understand we can’t live in yesterday; things change over time.  That’s just mankind marching on.  And I can also appreciate the fact that the mundane everyday tasks of our lives sometimes become easier as a result of these changes, but it seems to me our quality of life suffers as a result.  As I turned onto FM 173, I remember thinking, “I’m not sure all this change is worth the price.”

My God!  I was so shook up by that thought that I pulled over to the side of the road to try to calm myself and think this through.  Decades ago I heard those exact words come out of my father’s mouth.  His general view of life was that the whole world was going to hell in a hand basket.  Of course, at the time I just laughed it off.  Only the old see the world that way.  As a teenager, I thought the world was great just as it was, and the few changes that were happening, I saw as improvements.  To a teenage boy, my father might as well have been a space alien.  His views were as completely incomprehensible to me, as I’m sure mine were to him.  Back then we called it the Generation Gap.  But this day, as I drove away from Comfort, I was struck by the realization that somewhere over the years, I had become my father.

As time goes on I am beginning to suspect that we are all really more similar than we are different.  As I look back on it now, I realize I didn’t become my father at that moment in Comfort; I suspect I have always been him.  I just didn’t know it.  The idea we had way back then about a generation gap came from a mistake in the way we viewed each other.  Quite simply, we had been comparing apples to oranges.

Every year Beloit College puts out its “Mindset List” for college faculty.  It is a list of the experiences and worldviews of incoming college freshmen that is designed to help faculty understand the critters they are about to encounter.  According to the list, for members of the 2015 freshman class, the Daily Show with Jon Stewart has always been the only news program that really “gets it right,” and when they see wire-rimmed glasses, they think Harry Potter, not John Lennon—or John Denver. The list goes on.

Obviously, the world seen by these students is radically different from the one I live in.  I’m sure these young people see the world as it is today and think it has always been this way.  They may see problems, but if they do, they view them as obstacles that were created by previous generations and view any changes that take place as improvements.  In essence, they see the world exactly as I saw it at their age.

In the late ‘60s, I was a boy of 17 looking at my father, a man of 48.  Back then, I had a Fender guitar—he only saw a (expletive) guitar that constantly needed to be turned down.  I loved my top 40 music.  He heard only noise.  Today, I hear a car driving down the road booming and vibrating and think, “turn down that (expletive) radio.”  Truth is, it is probably an MP3 player.  I wonder—what if, as that teenage boy, I could have met my father when he was 17?  I suspect we would have been very similar in our worldviews.

Now, several years later, I still haven’t returned to Comfort to see the new Lowe’s Market building.  I doubt if it can be as cool as the old one.  But then, that is exactly what my father would have said.

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